Sometimes I think about all the stuff I wish I’d known about being an adult, before I became one. Because I would have stayed a kid, where I belong.
Of course, Mother Nature had other plans. Damn her.
So today’s Twisty Thursday is all about sharing some of the wisdom you and I have earned, through trial, tribulation, and trying to figure out how to be a grown-up. For goodness’ sake, I’m 31 years old…I should have this stuff figured out already, right?
But I don’t.
Every so often, I see a book or an article with “letters to my younger self.” You know, the stuff you wish you’d known. Well, I’d like to do something similar, except for my friends. The grown up ones. Because there’s no sense in wasting perfectly good wisdom on the young. They don’t listen anyway.
So here you’ll find a few little tidbits of knowledge and whatnot for my adult peers, because there is plenty that we can still teach one another and loads of good stuff we can share. Perhaps we can help each other to avoid some of life’s pitfalls and misunderstandings.
“Philosophy” literally translates to “love of wisdom.” And I do. I love wisdom; love to learn and share (what little I might have) and gather more. In doing so, I wanted to post a few goodies I wish I’d understood about adulthood a lot sooner, but I had to learn the hard way. Please, post your responses or additions to my list. I know there will be plenty. Perhaps, together, we can figure it all out (riiiight).
Stuff I Didn’t Know About Being A Grown-Up (Until I figured it out the hard way)
- You never really feel like a grown up. Seriously. What. The. HECK?! I’m not going to lie; I’ve never really felt like a grown up. I still feel confused about a lot of things and ignorant of others. I know that I am a grown up, but wonder when I will actually feel like one. I still feel as if I am the student and wonder if I should or will ever be the teacher. I’ve asked around, and gotten a similar answer from friends and family. It’s true. You never actually do feel like a grown up, regardless of whether or not you hold the title.
- It’s harder than I thought it would be. A lot harder. I might not feel like a grown up all the time, but boy do I feel like I’m dressed up in grown up clothes, doing grown up things. When we’re kids, we can’t wait to grow up…because we’ll get to do whatever we want!!! But the truth is, having choices and responsibilities and stuff is really hard!
- There’s not enough time in the day or money in the bank to do all the
things I want to do. Ever. I find that I really wish for three more hours, or three more hands, or less need for sleep (but, damn it, I really like sleep!). What I wouldn’t give to go back to the simple days of childhood, where all my decisions were made for me and bedtime was at 9pm.
- The freedom of adulthood comes with a cost: Your sanity. Because you aren’t allowed to say “I wish I’d never had kids,” or “I should have chosen differently.” It’s just not done. So you have to soldier through and pretend that you’re perfectly happy with your circumstances, even if you’re not. Because, gods forbid that you might screw your kids up more than you already might have. Luckily, you might be able to screw them up to the point that you actually like having them around. Heheheheh….
- Societal Expectations are Bullshit. When I was growing up, I thought everything in life was supposed to happen in order. You grow up happy, go to high school, learn to drive, have your first romance, go to prom, graduate, go to college, find your dream job, get married, buy a house, and have 2.5 kids, a white
picket fence, a dog and a cat. That’s how it goes, right? Ha. No. But that’s the life we’re brainwashed into thinking we ought to have. When it gets derailed, we are confused and have to completely rebuild our expectations. How easy this might be hinges on our own ability to cope with change. Some obviously have an easier time than others.
So, now it’s your turn, dear lurkers. I hope to hear from you. What have you learned as “grown ups” that you’ll share with me?