Are my expectations of other people just too damned high?
I’m starting to think that I simply need to let go and embrace that the only high standard I ought to have is for myself. And I’d do that, if everyone else would stay out of my stinkin’ business. But they won’t.
I hold a lot of stock in the idea that we are personally responsible for what we do. We must
be, if we are to consider ourselves to be free citizens. With that comes other, internal responsibilities: We are also responsible for how we feel. We have (barring some physiological malady) a choice in how we feel and what we do.
Well, sort of. Because some folks would like to take that away from you.
It seems that many do not want to accept responsibility for the consequences of their actions and choices. They believe that others hold power over them; that they have no choice but to be a victim of circumstance. I cannot fathom what a disappointing life that would be.
It follows, then, that I find myself in a bit of a philosophical conundrum. Am I simply expecting too much of other people…that they be responsible for their own futures and let me be responsible for mine? Aren’t we all captaining our own ships? Should that ship run aground, is it not the captain’s responsibility to deal with the result? Shouldn’t responsibility-for-self be the way for everyone?
Is it unethical for one to ignore the stupidity of another and let them deal with it on their own? Or is the opposite true? Is it unethical to involve and push one person’s or group’s opinions regarding right behavior onto another just because that person is being stupid? What are the ethics of dealing with consequences?
Holy cow, that’s some heavy crap.
Did you know that some states are working (very hard, mind you) to legislate the amount of soda, sugar, fat, and salt we are allowed to eat? And even what kind of milk our kids can have with their school lunch?
I find this to be utterly insane, and quite offensive. I don’t need someone to tell me what or how to eat, or how to feed my children. As a matter of fact, I choose to eat healthily, but if I chose not to do so, that would also be my choice.
I have a choice to go to a healthy restaurant or not; to allow my children to eat at school or pack them a lunch. My children are little beanpoles who definitely could use a little extra
whole milk with their lunch, but because of the “obesity epidemic,” my boys are given skim milk with their lunch. Our pediatrician says that they are underweight, despite me feeding them as much as I can to help them put on healthy weight. Do these legislators not realize that the brain needs fat to grow? And that it is growing all through childhood?
Holy shit…do I have a discrimination suit?
Just kidding. Well, maybe.
So why do we allow this nonsense? Why are people voting to feed my kids less of what I want them to eat because some other parents have chosen not to get their kids off the couch and outside? I mean, crap…in some places if I leave my 8 and 9 year old in the car while I go grab a carton of milk, I’ll be arrested. But these parents who place their child’s health in real danger are no big deal at all. That’s everyone else’s fault and must be legislated!
Why do we see it as our duty to force our will upon others so that they are required to be responsible in the way that we see fit? I might be disappointed in humanity, but I REFUSE to go that far. I can understand laws which direct order, prevent violence, punish murder…but salt?
I like to keep Twisty Thursday’s posts short and leave plenty for my readers to comment on. Tell me, how does it make you feel to know that you aren’t allowed to be responsible for the consequences of your own choices? That your choices are being taken away from you?
What are the ethics of allowing others to deal with the consequences of their behavior?