In response to Wayfaring Stranger’s excellent open letter to those servicemen and women affected by the repeal of DADT:
Well said, Riley. I wanted to add a few thoughts.
I’ve said for a long time that there is nothing more wrong than denying a person the ability to reach their full spiritual potential. When a person tells another who and how they may love they are disallowing another human being the ability to exercise their free will. This is truly an affront to nature and the wheel of life. Regardless your personal opinion on homosexuality, it’s their life not yours.
To me, telling a person “you are not allowed to openly love the person you love the most” is despicable. I am ecstatic that so many Soldiers will be able to pursue and openly find happiness with their partners. I’m happy when anyone is able to find love in this ridiculously tumultuous world.
Thing interesting thing about humans is that there will ALWAYS be some moron who will judge you, regardless your sexual orientation. It might be that you or your partner is “too old” or “too young” or “too tall/fat/skinny/mean/nice/gay/straight/brown/pale/etc.” It might be that they don’t like your accent, or that you come from a different place. You’d think that people would be used to diversity within the military, but some folks just weren’t raised right…and even military service can’t retrain them.
It doesn’t matter what these idiots think. They clearly do not understand that they and their “opinions” are unwelcome and unimportant. They will find themselves to be confused and lonely individuals in the future.
What will those opinions be worth when they find themselves ostracized and alone?
Changing these types of people is often out of the scope of our own ability. It is a change which will occur slowly over time, and for some…well, some will never change. I am truly sad in my heart for them, because they don’t know what love really is. They think they do, but real love for our fellow man/woman requires honest appreciation for both differences and similarities.
We simply have to accept that there will always be someone who does not like us or agree with us. As a female in uniform myself, I have heard numerous times (and in numerous ways) that I am a bad mother for allowing myself to be deployed instead of leaving the military to be a stay-at-home mother. I quit my full time Army job to go back to school (I’m still a part time Soldier), and now I’m a bad mother for being a full time student who will be going to medical school very shortly.
Those who judge simply don’t understand that the ability to exhibit real love begins outside of oneself with appreciation of the plethora of human emotions by which we are united. Society places much emphasis on diversity; so much that we often forget the other side of the coin: Unity. We are united by common bonds as human beings and ought not forget that.
Please don’t think that I am trivializing anyone’s difficulties. I am not. My point is this: You can’t win for losing with these idiots, so there is no sense in wasting energy by playing their little games. Avoid them and surround yourself with those who love and appreciate you. Push away negative energy and do not allow the black hole that is “Bigot” to suck you into its orbit.
All the best,